Today I just did something I've waited my whole life to do.
I got married.
No separate-but-equal, no domestic partnership paperwork, no kinda-sorta-real-but-not-really. No my friends, none of that. Today I married the man of my dreams and it was officially recognized by the State Of California.
A real bona fide marriage.
History was made today and I'm a million miles in the sky.
Having only been married for a few hours I must say that my brain is a bit overwhelmed. We had a major commitment ceremony 3 years ago in Austin, Texas before a hundred or so friends and family. That event goes down as the most important day of my life. But today, well, today I'm simply blown away by the opportunity to have my relationship recognized by my state and by those around me. I never thought it would be necessary but I do feel equal. And equal feels so very good!
I now get to join the ranks of my parents who have been married 47 years, both of my sisters (married over 20 years, both of them!), and the countless other individuals who dedicate their lives to each other and hold dear the institution of marriage and the promise of love, care, respect and commitment. And I got to do it the very first day it was allowed, joining the dozens of other couples in love all over the state of California.
To the countless couples who took advantage of this historic day–may you always cherish each other for the rest of your lives.
To the county employees and Los Angeles clerks who provided such amazing service–your smiles and words of encouragement make me realize that love is love, pure and simple, and that sometimes there's just not enough of it.
It feels good. It feels right. And to the naysayers and objectors of same-sex marriage, well, I simply cannot hear you. I'm married, elated and happy, and to me that's all that matters right now.
-matt
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Ok, so many friends asked what I'd wear to my own wedding. Since that big day was covered 3 years ago our trip to the Registrar's office was simply a formality. Hey, I didn't need to dress up. Boy, was I wrong. After completing interviews with the LA Times, NPR, KTLA 4, NBC4, ABC 7, FOX LA and the Whittier News, well, I realized I could have gussied up just a bit. OH REALLY, who cares???? I'm married now! Married! YAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! Below are some quick snaps from this morning.
The day started at 6:30am for us and we were immediately greeting with other couples waiting to tie the knot. We were also greeted by reporters. TONS OF REPORTERS. Today I felt like it was a special press gathering. Here's my Adam being interviewed.
These lovely ladies, Cindy and Elaine, have been together 40 years. FORTY YEARS! They were in line in front of us and to be able to witness their special day really touched me. Look at those gorgeous smiles!
People lined up and tents were set up for the anticipated rush of couples.
Reporters, reporters, reporters! These hard-working folks remained professional and objective but it was quite obvious how they felt as they offered enthusiastic well wishes to everyone all morning long. And check out that outfit at 7am. Lord I don't know how she does it.
Here we are at the window filing our paperwork. I'll have you know that I am officially listed as the "Bride" because the paperwork and forms had yet to be updated. I thought that was HILARIOUS! These photos were taken by KTLA's Jamie Chambers who snatched my camera out of my hand and started snapping like a pro. I dunno, maybe he was. Thank you Jamie!
After filing we were given a call number complete with clip art from 1993. But still, were were number 8!
Here we are in our Wedding Cubicle, for lack of a better phrase. Red roses were handed out to everyone and I thought that was the sweetest gesture. Naturally I would have had a different flower, something more snazzy and me, but hey, it's the sentiment that counts! Adam is about to put the ring on my finger. How come it looks like we're on an airplane?
A reporter from the LA Times as well as an NBC cameraman asked if they could cover our ceremony. I told them only if they let me take their pictures. They were both so completely sweet. Plus the reporter is a South Paw. WOOT WOOT!
Look how happy we are! You wouldn't know that I just completely had a full-on crying fit 30 seconds before. I was so happy, something tells me my man was kinda excited about it too.
KINDA EXCITED ABOUT IT until it came time for the cameras to roll again. He's not one for being in front of the camera. Me? I'm a ham. BUT A MARRIED HAM!!!!!!!!
It's hard to answer such profound questions when there's so much love and commotion all around you. Still, we did our best. When asked if today was everything we expected we both answered about how it was so much more than we could have imagined. It was. It was surreal and amazing and fun. This isn't going to be on TMZ, is it?
As one of the first couples done with the whole process we made our way to the photo gazebo area. With a sunny day full of happiness and love all around my HUSBAND (yes I said HUSBAND!!!!) and I stopped for a few quick photos. Today I realized that I am the luckiest man alive and also to take a booster chair and step ladder any time I stand next to my man.
Wow. We're married. It just can't get any better than that.


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congratulations Matt!!! What a special day it is for the both of you!! All the best!!!
congratulations Matt!!! What a special day it is for the both of you!! All the best!!!
congrats to you both!! this is very good for the state and the country!
Many, many congratulations! This post made me grin from ear to ear. I’m so happy for you and all the other couples out there who have their chance to get married. May you and Adam have much joy and many wonderful years together!
OMG… Congratulations! I didn’t think such news from a complete stranger (well, I’ve been a longtime reader) would make my day, but it did. I got teary seeing the pics. I am so happy for you and I wish you a long life of happiness together.
Your blog is great and beautiful. Glad to read and see such happiness… which is truly beauty in itself. Your day reminded me of my wedding day with my husband. After work on a Friday afternoon (that’s when our apptmt was), we got married at city hall here in Toronto. I didn’t get any pictures of our ceremony that day because my camera broke and the film wouldn’t load
but the memory will stay with me forever.
Keep on creating all the beautiful shots I enjoy so very much and happy loving to you and yours.
Congratulations! What a wonderful story : )
Matt -
Congratulations! And the big question…where are you registered?
Congrats congrats congrats!
Kate
OMG! Congratulations to both of you!
A great chapter in history & well documented…Congratulations to both!!
congratulations !!!
It makes me happy to see how the world can change sometimes !
lots of joy for you two !!!
Congratulations! You can feel the happiness oozing from the screen
I am so elated for you both! Congrats!
Tons of love to you both.
Congrats! What a wonderful post. I’m all teary eyed thinking of all the happy couples.
Dear Matt & Adam
CONGRATULATIONS!!! Welcome to the club
Congratulations and best wishes for a long life together. Great photos!
That is so wonderful. Congratulations. I am so happy for you.
ali
Oh, congratulations! (Or best wishes? Isn’t that what you’re supposed to say to the bride? When I got married here in Quebec there were just two “spouse” lines. Good, because I’m no bride)
So much love. You are a lovely family. I have endless respect and gratitude for all those who’ve fought for this for so long.
Congrats from Ohio and best wishes to you both. I’ve been married for almost ten years and it’s quite a ride!
This made me so happy that I cried. Congrats!
Congrats on being newlyweds all over again!
It’s the first time I visit your blog, and I cannot close it without leaving a comment. Your smiles irradiate happiness! Thank you for sharing this special moment. Congratulations and the very best wishes for both of you…
Congratulations! Gosh, I’m so happy for you.
I always read your blog, though I never leave a comment, but this marriage is such a great piece of news that I can’t help writing.
I wish you and your husband a joyful life together, filled with love and… good food, of course
Martha
How awesome! Congratulations to both of you on this historic event!
Matt,
I don’t even know you, but I send you guys a blessing. You’re already having a happy marriage, but I hope you have a very happy official, on paper marriage. A union in love is what makes the world a better place. My home state of California each moment is becoming a better place, because of yours and all the other unions in love that we can all finally rejoice about.
I wish you all my happiness.
Suzie
Teresopolis
RJ, Brazil
congratulation for the Second in Line “city of Love” today – And a thumb up for California; progressive minds.
I check out your blog often though I never comment. Your happiness moved me to break my silence and say congratulations! May you share a lifetime of love and joy! Here is to hoping the rest of the US gets on board.
Figured I would chime in with all the teary-eyed others. Congratulations. I am thrilled for you – and proud of my country for recognizing what you have. I sooo want what you have! Someday *sigh* Much love sent your way…
Dude, congrats. I’m so happy you were able to experience those emotions driven by an “official” wedding. I can only imagine how deeply it’s burned into your memory. Yay!!! Time to celebrate!
I just started reading your blog abouta month ago (I love it) and when I saw the title for this entry I just thought WOW. Never really had an opinion on same sex marriages but seeing you guys makes me think – RIGHT ON! In this day and age if you’re blessed enough to have someone in your life who truly loves and cherishes you, you should be together. CONGRATS!!! May you CONTINUE to live happily ever after.
Congratulations and best wishes to you both! Marriage is a wonderful rollercoaster ride–enjoy every moment of your life together!
Congratulations! You both look so happy and your post warmed my heart. Best wishes!
181 comments….damnit boy you should have registered, just think of the windfall
Congratulations!
BIG Congrats to you both!!
Congratulations! Your beautiful posting brought tears to my eyes.
HUGE congrats to you both – what a happy day!
Congratulations!
So happy for you two!!!! These photos are so beautiful to see. All the best!
Yay! Hooray! Congratulations!!!
I’m late to the wedding announcement, but hey! Congratulations! And wishes for many, many happy years ahead for both of you.
Matt congratulations! One of my best friends was married in San Francisco Tuesday morning. They had smiles as big as yours! Wahooooo!
CONGRATS!!! best of everything to the both of you.
Awe, how great, best wishes for a lifetime filled with happiness and love to you both. What a wonderful collection of comments, I can feel the love
Congratulations!
Thanks for sharing such a wonderful day with your readers, May every day you share together be as happy and exciting as your wedding day! Congratulations!
congratulations on your beautiful day. and thank you for sharing it with us.
Way to go, dude! My husband & I have been married for 22 months now and every day gets better.
We’re working here in Portland, OR for the same opportunities. Times are a changin’ and it makes me smile.
Enjoy this exciting time!
Congrats! LOVE the floral arch
Congrats! LOVE the floral arch
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