Today I just did something I've waited my whole life to do.
I got married.
No separate-but-equal, no domestic partnership paperwork, no kinda-sorta-real-but-not-really. No my friends, none of that. Today I married the man of my dreams and it was officially recognized by the State Of California.
A real bona fide marriage.
History was made today and I'm a million miles in the sky.
Having only been married for a few hours I must say that my brain is a bit overwhelmed. We had a major commitment ceremony 3 years ago in Austin, Texas before a hundred or so friends and family. That event goes down as the most important day of my life. But today, well, today I'm simply blown away by the opportunity to have my relationship recognized by my state and by those around me. I never thought it would be necessary but I do feel equal. And equal feels so very good!
I now get to join the ranks of my parents who have been married 47 years, both of my sisters (married over 20 years, both of them!), and the countless other individuals who dedicate their lives to each other and hold dear the institution of marriage and the promise of love, care, respect and commitment. And I got to do it the very first day it was allowed, joining the dozens of other couples in love all over the state of California.
To the countless couples who took advantage of this historic day–may you always cherish each other for the rest of your lives.
To the county employees and Los Angeles clerks who provided such amazing service–your smiles and words of encouragement make me realize that love is love, pure and simple, and that sometimes there's just not enough of it.
It feels good. It feels right. And to the naysayers and objectors of same-sex marriage, well, I simply cannot hear you. I'm married, elated and happy, and to me that's all that matters right now.
-matt
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Ok, so many friends asked what I'd wear to my own wedding. Since that big day was covered 3 years ago our trip to the Registrar's office was simply a formality. Hey, I didn't need to dress up. Boy, was I wrong. After completing interviews with the LA Times, NPR, KTLA 4, NBC4, ABC 7, FOX LA and the Whittier News, well, I realized I could have gussied up just a bit. OH REALLY, who cares???? I'm married now! Married! YAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! Below are some quick snaps from this morning.
The day started at 6:30am for us and we were immediately greeting with other couples waiting to tie the knot. We were also greeted by reporters. TONS OF REPORTERS. Today I felt like it was a special press gathering. Here's my Adam being interviewed.
These lovely ladies, Cindy and Elaine, have been together 40 years. FORTY YEARS! They were in line in front of us and to be able to witness their special day really touched me. Look at those gorgeous smiles!
People lined up and tents were set up for the anticipated rush of couples.
Reporters, reporters, reporters! These hard-working folks remained professional and objective but it was quite obvious how they felt as they offered enthusiastic well wishes to everyone all morning long. And check out that outfit at 7am. Lord I don't know how she does it.
Here we are at the window filing our paperwork. I'll have you know that I am officially listed as the "Bride" because the paperwork and forms had yet to be updated. I thought that was HILARIOUS! These photos were taken by KTLA's Jamie Chambers who snatched my camera out of my hand and started snapping like a pro. I dunno, maybe he was. Thank you Jamie!
After filing we were given a call number complete with clip art from 1993. But still, were were number 8!
Here we are in our Wedding Cubicle, for lack of a better phrase. Red roses were handed out to everyone and I thought that was the sweetest gesture. Naturally I would have had a different flower, something more snazzy and me, but hey, it's the sentiment that counts! Adam is about to put the ring on my finger. How come it looks like we're on an airplane?
A reporter from the LA Times as well as an NBC cameraman asked if they could cover our ceremony. I told them only if they let me take their pictures. They were both so completely sweet. Plus the reporter is a South Paw. WOOT WOOT!
Look how happy we are! You wouldn't know that I just completely had a full-on crying fit 30 seconds before. I was so happy, something tells me my man was kinda excited about it too.
KINDA EXCITED ABOUT IT until it came time for the cameras to roll again. He's not one for being in front of the camera. Me? I'm a ham. BUT A MARRIED HAM!!!!!!!!
It's hard to answer such profound questions when there's so much love and commotion all around you. Still, we did our best. When asked if today was everything we expected we both answered about how it was so much more than we could have imagined. It was. It was surreal and amazing and fun. This isn't going to be on TMZ, is it?
As one of the first couples done with the whole process we made our way to the photo gazebo area. With a sunny day full of happiness and love all around my HUSBAND (yes I said HUSBAND!!!!) and I stopped for a few quick photos. Today I realized that I am the luckiest man alive and also to take a booster chair and step ladder any time I stand next to my man.
Wow. We're married. It just can't get any better than that.


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Congrats! LOVE the floral arch
Awww, congrats to the sweeeeetest “bride” and groom on earth!
I’m so happy for you!
Best Wishes….husbands are great and I think everyone should have one!
Congratulations Matt !
Congrats! Best of luck to you both..many Blessings!
Congratulations!!!!! You guys look so happy!!!
I just teared up at work reading this. I’m so happy for you.
Aaaaaa! It’s 3:pm on a really hot day and I am sitting here crying! I was hoping tears of joy would have a more cooling effect than the other kind
CONGRATULATIONS! You make a beautiful bride; you look absolutely radiant with joy
Congrats Matt. You two look so happy in the pictures. Congrats again!
Congratulations! About time we all can marry the one we love regardless of sex! I wish you a long and happy life together!
congratulations! lots of happiness to you both
Congratulations!!!!Once I read a beatiful phrase that I liked very much…..”For the bows we’ve made and the roads we’ll take, let the journey now begin….”
As we say in Spain…”que seais felices y comais perdices”= “be happy and eat partridge”
A huge congratulations to the both of you.
You two looks so happy together, ;loved the post.
A real inspiration.
Now hopefully new york can follow!!!!!!
Big Hugs
Paul
Matzel tov! Here’s to many, many more years of bliss (now, “wedded”)!
Congratulations:-) Same-sex marriages was allowed by law in Norway last week and there was a great celebration at the roof of the new opera house in Oslo this week end. (Look at the rainbow helping at the party – http://www.kjendis.no/2008/06/20/538789.html)
I hope you will be very happy. It is great that the world is moving in the right direction.
Congratulations. I am so Happy for you both!
Hooray! Congratulations!
Congratulations! I got a bit teary reading this post. I’m so happy for both of you.
love
gentle hard
congratualations and salutations
I Am Very Happy For You Two
Joy and more Joy and a bit ol’ smile
OH MATT THATS REALLY GREAT I’M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!! I LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH AND HOPE TO SEE YOU WHEN I GO TO TEXAS!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WE LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!!
Congratulations! My husband and I just celebrated our 25th! Welcome to the club!
Awesome!!!!! Simply awesome. Congrats, good people, and good for California!
Congrats Matt & Adam!!!!! You guys must be on cloud 9, isn’t the view great. Enjoy the moments. Looking forward to seeing you, Michelle
Way to go guys! A serious congrats to you both, and a long and happy life together! You rock!
Hi Matt! I love your blog, but haven’t commented before – this beautiful post made me do it. Congratulations! I’m so happy for you both and you’re both adorable!!!
WoW–Congratulations that was the best post ever
Congratulations Matt and Adam. It is so nice to know that true love is being recognized in all of its forms!
Best to you!
Just got back in town and all I can say is YAY! I am so happy for you–for everyone. We finally got it right.
And you do make the most fetching bride:-)
Congratulations! I just moved back home to Redondo Beach after living in Boston for a while. I am still getting used to things here being so far apart. But at least now my home state has same-sex marriage going for it.
Matt ~ Congratulations. My partner was hoping to marry me, but I’m not American, and I am not interested in taking on the Feds (even though it is outrageous, then, that my darling is effectively a second-class citizen in his own country). Oh well – we can marry in my country, at least.
How thrilling for you both!! You look like blushing grooms under the pergola.
I am so happy for you. Being married is such a wonderful thing. To anyone who says it’s “just a piece of paper” is sorely missin out. Best wishes to the both of you!
Congratulations! I am so happy for both of you.
Oh, this made me cry. I’m so happy for you. Congratulations.
Oh, this made me cry. I’m so happy for you. Congratulations.
Congratulations! That is so exciting! How crazy it must have felt to have all those reporters there for your marriage! Way to make history!
Congratulations! Best wishes to you both!
(I just found your wonderful blog through “Fish Food” and wanted to say Hello.)
I am sorry I didn’t see this sooner but better late than never — Congratulations! I love your blog and I am so happy to see you guys go for it. Hoo-ray!!
Congratulations! I’m a newish reader here, but love your blog, photos and food and am so happy you could do this! I hope the rest of the country does what is right. Best wishes to you both!
I love your blog and coming here tonight made my heart leap – you both are so happy – love is all that matters and it shines forth from you both. Mazel to the newly married couple.
So, so thrilled for you!!! Congratulations on this most amazing day.
just wanted to say congratulations!!!!
what a gorgeous couple! i’m so jealous~~~
best wishes!
Congratulations!! I’m so happy for you both!! You guys look so sweet and totally in love in that last photo!! May you have many more good years to share together!!
Congratulations! Have a Happy Life Together!
Julie
(friend of Prestons from NJ)
Just catching up on my blog reading, so this comes a bit behind the times, but major, delighted congratulations from the very deep south!
Congratulations!!!! Y’all look so darn happy!
Congratulations Matt!
aww man, you are making me cry at work!!!
Congrats! You two look so happy, what a wonderful wonderful day. Wish I could have been there cheering you all on (throwing some bird seed too)!
(smiles!)
I have been reading your blog for a couple of months and I’m very exited that now you and your husband can join the ranks of the Married ones. I wish you the best
I’m extremely happy for you and Adam and everyone who got to make this a reality. Congratulations!
Congratulations you guys, you look so happy together. Aww, come here, have a big hug!
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