Today I just did something I've waited my whole life to do.
I got married.
No separate-but-equal, no domestic partnership paperwork, no kinda-sorta-real-but-not-really. No my friends, none of that. Today I married the man of my dreams and it was officially recognized by the State Of California.
A real bona fide marriage.
History was made today and I'm a million miles in the sky.
Having only been married for a few hours I must say that my brain is a bit overwhelmed. We had a major commitment ceremony 3 years ago in Austin, Texas before a hundred or so friends and family. That event goes down as the most important day of my life. But today, well, today I'm simply blown away by the opportunity to have my relationship recognized by my state and by those around me. I never thought it would be necessary but I do feel equal. And equal feels so very good!
I now get to join the ranks of my parents who have been married 47 years, both of my sisters (married over 20 years, both of them!), and the countless other individuals who dedicate their lives to each other and hold dear the institution of marriage and the promise of love, care, respect and commitment. And I got to do it the very first day it was allowed, joining the dozens of other couples in love all over the state of California.
To the countless couples who took advantage of this historic day–may you always cherish each other for the rest of your lives.
To the county employees and Los Angeles clerks who provided such amazing service–your smiles and words of encouragement make me realize that love is love, pure and simple, and that sometimes there's just not enough of it.
It feels good. It feels right. And to the naysayers and objectors of same-sex marriage, well, I simply cannot hear you. I'm married, elated and happy, and to me that's all that matters right now.
-matt
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Ok, so many friends asked what I'd wear to my own wedding. Since that big day was covered 3 years ago our trip to the Registrar's office was simply a formality. Hey, I didn't need to dress up. Boy, was I wrong. After completing interviews with the LA Times, NPR, KTLA 4, NBC4, ABC 7, FOX LA and the Whittier News, well, I realized I could have gussied up just a bit. OH REALLY, who cares???? I'm married now! Married! YAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! Below are some quick snaps from this morning.
The day started at 6:30am for us and we were immediately greeting with other couples waiting to tie the knot. We were also greeted by reporters. TONS OF REPORTERS. Today I felt like it was a special press gathering. Here's my Adam being interviewed.
These lovely ladies, Cindy and Elaine, have been together 40 years. FORTY YEARS! They were in line in front of us and to be able to witness their special day really touched me. Look at those gorgeous smiles!
People lined up and tents were set up for the anticipated rush of couples.
Reporters, reporters, reporters! These hard-working folks remained professional and objective but it was quite obvious how they felt as they offered enthusiastic well wishes to everyone all morning long. And check out that outfit at 7am. Lord I don't know how she does it.
Here we are at the window filing our paperwork. I'll have you know that I am officially listed as the "Bride" because the paperwork and forms had yet to be updated. I thought that was HILARIOUS! These photos were taken by KTLA's Jamie Chambers who snatched my camera out of my hand and started snapping like a pro. I dunno, maybe he was. Thank you Jamie!
After filing we were given a call number complete with clip art from 1993. But still, were were number 8!
Here we are in our Wedding Cubicle, for lack of a better phrase. Red roses were handed out to everyone and I thought that was the sweetest gesture. Naturally I would have had a different flower, something more snazzy and me, but hey, it's the sentiment that counts! Adam is about to put the ring on my finger. How come it looks like we're on an airplane?
A reporter from the LA Times as well as an NBC cameraman asked if they could cover our ceremony. I told them only if they let me take their pictures. They were both so completely sweet. Plus the reporter is a South Paw. WOOT WOOT!
Look how happy we are! You wouldn't know that I just completely had a full-on crying fit 30 seconds before. I was so happy, something tells me my man was kinda excited about it too.
KINDA EXCITED ABOUT IT until it came time for the cameras to roll again. He's not one for being in front of the camera. Me? I'm a ham. BUT A MARRIED HAM!!!!!!!!
It's hard to answer such profound questions when there's so much love and commotion all around you. Still, we did our best. When asked if today was everything we expected we both answered about how it was so much more than we could have imagined. It was. It was surreal and amazing and fun. This isn't going to be on TMZ, is it?
As one of the first couples done with the whole process we made our way to the photo gazebo area. With a sunny day full of happiness and love all around my HUSBAND (yes I said HUSBAND!!!!) and I stopped for a few quick photos. Today I realized that I am the luckiest man alive and also to take a booster chair and step ladder any time I stand next to my man.
Wow. We're married. It just can't get any better than that.


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congratulations!
i wish you all the best!
verena
Congratulations!!!!
Congrats! Matt you rock! I’m really happy for you both!! I’m a french blogger living in NYC and I love your blog. First comment for me today and it feels so right
Je vous souhaite le meilleur
hi congrats to you both. im glad that california accepts and recognizes your union. its sad however that the whole of the usa doesnt recognise it. im a scot and my parnter is from new york. and we had to choose the uk over usa so that we could live together. we were civil partnered 2 years ago. and its recognised in the whole of the uk. shame the usa still wont let us in as a couple. im glad bush is on his way out. just dont let mac cain in! blessings
many, many congratulations to you both – hurrah for equality finally coming through for you all!
Congratulations!!!
I hope it’s not too late to wish you and Adam all the best and nothing but the best in this life.
History was made indeed with your love and affection.
Congratulations, the story was incredible, I hope you guys will be happy together forever and ever !!!!
Mazel Tov! Your post made me smile so wide, I’m so happy for you; you look so thrilled, and especially Cindy and Elaine – it was all so beautiful!
Holy cow, I can’t believe I missed this. CONGRATULATIONS MATT AND ADAM!!! I’m crying with happiness for you both!
Congrats to you both on your very special day!!! May you share a million more!!!
Hi Matt, first time commenter, longtime reader — CONGRATULATIONS!! That’s a wonderful occassion in your and your spouse’s life — you both looks incredibly happy – and I wish you a lifetime of married happiness!!
It’s about freaking time!!!! so happy for you guys. i can’t wait till the rest of this country comes to its senses.
Bravo to the both of you! May your happiness inspire many others to follow in your footsteps!
Now you need many post wedding celebratory festivities to mark this wonderful occasion. We love celebrations. We’ll throw you both a bash at our place if you’re ever our neck of the woods!
Hi, just a random visitor – only wanted to wish you two congrats!
The explosion of joy throughout the state over the CA court’s decision is amazing.
Congratulations.
There were untold numbers of bridal veils in the SF Gay Pride Parade yesterday.
WOOHOO!!! CONGRATULATIONS from across the pond! omg! i am so excited and so happy for you and your adam. wishing you all the best that life can offer. and, i’ll make sure that hubby and i celebrate it for you here… and there’s a winefest that we are going to go to this weekend – how much better can a celebration get? we’ll drink lots of sekt for you both!
I am late on the well-wishing but I had to say Congrats anyways!
ok, so I’m only like the 266th person to say CONGRATS! (Oh yeah, and all the people everywhere on every news station…) So happy for you both! besos!
Congrats!! I’m so happy for you + yours!! Truly beautiful fotos + union, continued blessings and loads and loads of love.
wow! it’s been awhile since i’ve had time to check out my favorite blogs and i’m blown away by this post and sitting with big ol’ happy tears in my eyes reading this (which totally caught me off guard!).
FELICIDADES!!!!!
I’m so happy for you guys. Congratulation.
you guys are the cutest couple, ever.
I’m moved to tears. The sweetness of it all. Congratulations, and best wishes for many, many years of married happiness.
Check you out – the blushing bride! The day looks fu***ng fantastic – see how I edited out the swearing, just because it was your wedding day and all….
Wow! Im so happy for you 2! Congrats!
And great website! I’m a regular visitor! (^_^)
It’s about damn time!
Congratulations!!!
It’s about damn time!
Congratulations!!!
Auguri!
Hooray for love! Hooray for you! What a great day!
I’m a reader of your blog and a fan of your work and only wanted to say CONGRATULATIONS to you both. You’re a beautiful and wonderful couple and I hope you’ll always be so happy (or more!) as you look in these photos.
Helena (from Spain)
This is just the best thing I have seen all day (obviously a bit late). Congratulations! I am so happy for you both!
Wow. I just found your blog for the first time while looking for more food blogs to read and happened upon this post. Congratulations! I was just in Seattle at the end of May to celebrate with my family as my brother and his partner had their own commitment ceremony. It was beautiful thing, but something is just not quite right when it must be a separate “pretending to be” equal ceremony. I got teary eyed reading about your experience. Thank God we are finally moving in this direction!
A huge congratulations! I am so happy that you are able to be legally wed and recognized as a couple…finally! Your smiles are amazing and so are the ladies that have been together 40 years! Congrats to you both:)
Congratulations!! This post made me teary eyed.
Oh wow! You made me cry with your lovely, eloquent words about love. Even though it was 3 weeks ago, CONGRATULATIONS! May you both forever enjoy the thrills of this rollercoaster called marriage…
My God, this story is fantastic. Thank you for sharing it with all of us. Let me be the gazillionth person to say Congratulations.
Congratulations. I read your blog regularly but rarely comment but wanted to wish you the best. I’m in Toronto where we’ve had same-sex marriage for years, it’s about time the rest of North America began to catch up!
CONGRATULATIONS! u’re so SUPER cute together…
A very late congratulations. I just “discovered” you this morning and this post made me cry with happiness. So many smiles.
Congrats!!
Wow, so truly awesome. Congratulations, thanks for sharing! (BTW I’m here after finding your blog via Twitter via David Lebowitz, how about that?) Three cheers to you and your hubby, you’re a beautiful couple!
You go Matt! Marriage rocks! 15 years so far for me. Best of luck and many happy years.
Oh My God … CONGRATULATIONS !!!!!!!!!
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i’m so happy for you guys … cant believe i’m so late in wishing you !
Aww … the last pic is so adorable. Wish Adam n you the very best for the future, a life of happiness and gr8 photography
Hugs …
Seriously Matt,
That is just the very best thing ever, I’m getting a bit teary eyed. I am happy for the both of you!
Congratulations! A little but late, but I wish you both a very happy life together!
i’ll just add comment #294 and add my congratulations
beautiful pictures of an obviously beautiful & love filled day… all the best wishes.
i’ll just add comment #294 and add my congratulations
beautiful pictures of an obviously beautiful & love filled day… all the best wishes.
Wow-295 comments too late! Congratulations Matt-it’s sad to me that it’s taken this long for the government to “allow” 2 people who are in love to get married-but it makes my heart sing to know that you (and so many others) are now able to do so.
Congratulations-and lots of love and happiness to you and your husband.
PS. If you were the “bride” why were you not holding the roses?!
Wow-295 comments too late! Congratulations Matt-it’s sad to me that it’s taken this long for the government to “allow” 2 people who are in love to get married-but it makes my heart sing to know that you (and so many others) are now able to do so.
Congratulations-and lots of love and happiness to you and your husband.
PS. If you were the “bride” why were you not holding the roses?!
Wow-295 comments too late! Congratulations Matt-it’s sad to me that it’s taken this long for the government to “allow” 2 people who are in love to get married-but it makes my heart sing to know that you (and so many others) are now able to do so.
Congratulations-and lots of love and happiness to you and your husband.
PS. If you were the “bride” why were you not holding the roses?!
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