One Year Ago Today

by Matt on June 17, 2009


One year ago today I married Mr. Adam C. Pearson in front of crowds and cameras, tears and smiles, hugs and kisses.

One year ago today I didn’t really know what would happen to those thousands of men and women who stood up for love and dedicated their lives to each other.

One year ago today I thought we’d make progress in California.

One year ago today I never realized the progress would happen to America.

Ladies and gents, I’m not the political type. But I am the loving type. And I love people. And I know that these past twelve months have been simply amazing but also filled with a few roadblocks on our way to true equality.

And you know what? It’s gonna be OK.

I know deep in my heart that equality will prevail for everyone, no matter where you are. And I want you to know that love is love and there’s nothing to fear.

Here’s to my husband, the man I’ve waited my whole life to meet. If you look up happy, chubby, loved and satisfied in the dictionary you’ll see my picture. Thank you for taking care of me.

And here’s a big happy anniversary to the 18,000 who married in California during our quick little window of legality. Here’s to the thousands of couples, gay and straight, all across America who are saying “I Do” and making this country a happier, healthier place.

We’ll get there!

{ 85 comments… read them below or add one }

Deb June 18, 2009 at 1:14 pm

Happy Anniversary guys, you look so happy!

Derrick June 18, 2009 at 3:21 pm

Congratulations, you two. You give us all hope.

Janet June 18, 2009 at 3:48 pm

Great Picture Matt! You both look so happy.

Happy Anniversary!!

Diane June 18, 2009 at 4:25 pm

What a touching and hopeful post. I know things will change.
And happy anniversary to both of you – great wedding picture, too!

Sarah June 18, 2009 at 4:32 pm

Mazel Tov and a very happy healthy loving delicious anniversary to you both!!!

I’m trying to take your beautiful post to heart. I am not as positive as you nor do I have that kind of faith. Maybe it’s my nature or too much experience living with and seeing so much prejudice and hatred of all kinds. Or maybe it’s just history, I don’t know. But I suspect I’d be a happier calmer person if I had your belief that equality for all was coming.

Thanks for the inspiration, I’m going to try to be more positive and hopeful.

I wish the best for both of you. And I hope to see you in my dictionary soon :-) That was a touching commentary on your hubby. We should all be so lucky.

I’m only drinking tea right now, but I’m toasting your family. Cheers!

Just Cook It June 19, 2009 at 1:00 am

Reading this was possibly the best way to open a Friday. Many congratulations

Matt Bernstein June 19, 2009 at 3:17 am

Matt –

Congratulations to you and your husband on your anniversary. We live in NYC, but my husband and I were married last year in San Fran and will celebrate our first year in August (right after the birth of our twins in July!) After much angst, you are correct – we will get there – all of us.
Wishing you and Adam much happiness and a long life together.

The fight continues, but people should make no mistake that we will prevail and settle for nothing less than total equal rights.


Eva June 19, 2009 at 7:21 am

Biggest hug on earth for both of you! :)))))

Steve-Anna June 19, 2009 at 9:25 am

Happy Happy Anniversary, you two! Happiest couple I know ; ) Sending lots of love~SAS

Anne June 19, 2009 at 10:28 am

Happy Anniversary!

You two make marriage look GOOD….damned good.


Paula Maack June 19, 2009 at 12:43 pm

Happy Anniversary Matt and Adam!!!

Beautiful and poignant post. Thank you for sharing!


~ Paula

Carolyn June 19, 2009 at 2:10 pm

Well, that was awfully nice. Happy anniversary! You’ve got to believe that if enough people share stories like this, eventually there will come a point when no one, anywhere, ever, could take issue with two people in love being married to each other.

Paul Cypert June 19, 2009 at 8:45 pm

Hey guys congrats. In honor of my mom and her friend’s similar struggles I’ve personally started offering 25% off for same sex couples until our horrible system is reformed. Maybe it doesn’t change much, but I like to think that maybe it’ll make my straight couples think a bit about how easy they have it…


Rena June 20, 2009 at 6:39 pm

Happy Anniversary! I’ve never commented before on this site but your post was so lovely that I couldn’t help myself :)

Culinary Cory June 20, 2009 at 7:47 pm

We are slowly making progress, but we still have a long way to go. Congrats on the one year. Here’s to many more.

karin June 21, 2009 at 6:36 pm

Bless your heart. You made me cry. I wish everyone could find what you have and make it a marriage if that is what they most want, and I hope that soon it will be available to all. I am not gay, but I want all of my brothers and sisters in the world to be allowed to find their soul mates and have the same happiness I have with my husband of 24 years. You are amazing and I am so happy for you.
Karin from Augusta, Ga.

Stiffler June 21, 2009 at 7:18 pm

happy belated anniversary

Courtney June 21, 2009 at 8:21 pm

Great post. I have faith that eventually love will prevail.

anotherMatt June 22, 2009 at 2:52 am

Happy (belated) anniversary to you and all the other couples!

Coffee & Vanilla June 22, 2009 at 4:12 am

Hi Matt,

Congratulations! Happy Anniversary!!! :)

I love your blog and would love to award you with Beautiful Blog award.
If you agree place link or badge linking to the B B List somewhere on your site or mention it in the post. I will then place your link on the list.


Samantha from Maine June 22, 2009 at 10:40 am

Happy Anniversary…and many many more!

Cynthia June 22, 2009 at 3:18 pm

Happy Anniversary!

Philippe June 23, 2009 at 8:03 pm

Happy Anniversary!!! More love to you both and to all.

Katie June 24, 2009 at 1:16 pm

This is my first visit to your blog.
Congratulations on your anniversary! What an inspiring post!

Lisa A. June 24, 2009 at 6:58 pm

Has it been a year already? Where did the time go. Just as happy for you both today as I was then. Love rocks!!!

msveee June 29, 2009 at 6:34 pm

cheers to you and your happiness…and hubby.

brooke July 2, 2009 at 7:50 am

Matt, I know this is incredibly late–a note on Twitter certainly doesn’t count–But I wanted to leave a warm, hugs and kisses note that said how happy I am that you found your mister wonderful, that the two of you are married and that the world is better because you two are in it TOGETHER.

I adore you both.

180|360 July 3, 2009 at 1:19 am

A very belated happy anniversary to you both!

Claudia July 4, 2009 at 3:32 pm

Beautiful post, love is what really matter.

Paper Dolls for Boys July 6, 2009 at 12:17 pm

Happy happy Anniversary to you and your husband. Equal rights seems like a simple concept, not sure why some folks have trouble with it.
Tracey (proud resident of MA!!!)

Jessica July 9, 2009 at 7:03 pm

YAY! Congratulations! Me and Susie want to send you our best wishes, hope you have a great, fruitful life, together :)


itsmecissy July 16, 2009 at 2:58 pm

“May you grow old together on the same pillow.”

A blessing given to my husband and I on our Weddng day, 32 years ago.

And you’re right, we’ll get there!

vasilia July 21, 2009 at 11:46 am

I can’t believe I’ve been reading your blog an entire year! I’m not sure I’ve ever left a comment, but definitely want to wish you a happy anniversary and a wonderful life ahead.

We will get there (even down here in Texas)!

Steve July 27, 2009 at 5:35 pm

you guys are amazing. congratulations

ADRIANA September 7, 2009 at 6:57 am



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